Disclaimer: real names of places, people and events may have been altered or abbreviated to protect the innocent. Namely, me.

XOXO, R.

 

It’s hard to count your blessings when you’re surrounding yourself with dark, depressive stuff.
I made my choice. To walk away from all of that. Cut out the things that bog me down and that make me sad. To look into the light, and to decide that I will not entertain my gloomy thoughts another moment.
Life is short. I am not robbing my future self of any happiness he rightly deserves.

It’s hard to count your blessings when you’re surrounding yourself with dark, depressive stuff.

I made my choice. To walk away from all of that. Cut out the things that bog me down and that make me sad. To look into the light, and to decide that I will not entertain my gloomy thoughts another moment.

Life is short. I am not robbing my future self of any happiness he rightly deserves.

Played 40 times

You don’t even need a plate
Just your face, ha!

Woohoo (feat. Nicki Minaj)
Christina Aguilera

Anonymous asked
What do you look for in a boyfriend?

List of qualities Ryan looks out for in a boyfriend:
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3)
4)
5)

Okay I’m not looking for a boyfriend.

Because I’ve already got one.

I would love to introduce you guys to this amazing person.

Named Figment of My Imagination.

Zero percent chance of heartbreak forecast.

(Editing note: OKAY PEOPLE I’VE GOT A BAJILLION QUESTIONS IN MY INBOX ON MY PRIVATE LIFE THE PAST FEW DAYS AND I AM KIND OF EXASPERATED BECAUSE I RATHER NOT DWELL ON SAD THINGS so please just not drop questions like “So it was you who initiated the break up?” and “It’s good you broke up.” into my inbox. Yes, I’m single. No, I am not looking. No, I do not want to jump into anything. No, I am no saint and I messed up on some things which in retrospect I wish I could have done better at. Yes, I would love a fun night at a bar or on the dancefloor with people I love and trust, so HEY FRIENDS YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE WE ARE GUN BE WILD CHILDS AGAIN.)

"And nothing is going right."
My instinct was to jump in and start solving the problem he spent the last half hour pouring out. How things started going south, perhaps how some behaviors or cognitive patterns he engaged in aren’t helpful… But something that stuck with me from a counseling textbook semesters ago popped up in my head.
Love is listening.
Sometimes the right thing to do is to silence the troubleshooter in you and just be 120% present, listening non-judgmentally, empathetically.
And sometimes that’s all what a person in distress needs. Sometimes we just need to unload, vent, create a coherent narrative to the formless and upsetting jumble on the inside.

"And nothing is going right."

My instinct was to jump in and start solving the problem he spent the last half hour pouring out. How things started going south, perhaps how some behaviors or cognitive patterns he engaged in aren’t helpful… But something that stuck with me from a counseling textbook semesters ago popped up in my head.

Love is listening.

Sometimes the right thing to do is to silence the troubleshooter in you and just be 120% present, listening non-judgmentally, empathetically.

And sometimes that’s all what a person in distress needs. Sometimes we just need to unload, vent, create a coherent narrative to the formless and upsetting jumble on the inside.

Anonymous asked
You aren't dating Potato? What happened?

I’ve decided to stick to rice, it’s still my comfort food.

In all seriousness though, I am in the 'If you aren't happy, talk about it; if nothing changes and you're still unhappy despite having given your best, make a choice to walk away for your own happiness.' camp when people ask me about their relationship issues. I surprised myself when I woke up one morning and decided to follow my own damn advice for once.

A nice, big bowl of comforting noodle soup.
A friend who loves you unconditionally.
A conversation about the future, the awkward and hilarious moments in our past, the state of our other friends who can’t make it, and comfortable silences when we can just sit together and not feel the need to fill the air with babble.
The ingredients to make a good day.

A nice, big bowl of comforting noodle soup.

A friend who loves you unconditionally.

A conversation about the future, the awkward and hilarious moments in our past, the state of our other friends who can’t make it, and comfortable silences when we can just sit together and not feel the need to fill the air with babble.

The ingredients to make a good day.

Anonymous asked
Who are u dating now?

This drop dead gorgeous guy.

Named Figment of My Imagination.

Put your hands up!
Put your hands up!

Put Your Hands Up (For Detroit)
Fedde le Grand


At the end of it all, I refuse to be bitter about you. I forgive you even if you aren’t sorry and I thank you because loving you taught me how to give, to lose, to hurt, to heal, and to pick up the broken pieces and walk away when I need to.
And after an entire year of crying and wondering if you’ll ever return, I’m finally realizing that it’s okay if you don’t.
I’m letting myself go.

Dedicated to the ones in pain.
I know how it hurts. You’re not alone.

At the end of it all, I refuse to be bitter about you. I forgive you even if you aren’t sorry and I thank you because loving you taught me how to give, to lose, to hurt, to heal, and to pick up the broken pieces and walk away when I need to.

And after an entire year of crying and wondering if you’ll ever return, I’m finally realizing that it’s okay if you don’t.

I’m letting myself go.

Dedicated to the ones in pain.

I know how it hurts. You’re not alone.

"Oh, today is her rest day!"
Accidentally eavesdropped on a bunch of body pump mad aunties while we were milling about waiting for the class to start.
"Really?!"
"Yes! She does six hours on usual days and only two for today."
I gulped. This body pump instructor does more exercise on her rest days compared to my normal days.
I’d kill for her abs.

"Oh, today is her rest day!"

Accidentally eavesdropped on a bunch of body pump mad aunties while we were milling about waiting for the class to start.

"Really?!"

"Yes! She does six hours on usual days and only two for today."

I gulped. This body pump instructor does more exercise on her rest days compared to my normal days.

I’d kill for her abs.